On The Road, Psalm 68, One Word, Home, and First Client Visit

On The Road, Psalm 68, One Word, Home, and First Client Visit

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After 3 years of planning and preparation, there are 0 days left before the Daley’s will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids. We have hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

A few days ago, I (Jessica) woke up and asked the Lord to show me a verse or passage for our trip. This was after some of us had already chosen our 2019 One Word. In the Daley family, some of our 2019 One Words are Enjoyment, Nurture, and Prayer…a few more are still contemplating. I opened right up to Psalm 68. Read how pertinent this is to our lives.

Psalm 68 (NIV)
3
 But may the righteous be glad
    and rejoice before God;
    may they be happy and joyful.

Sing to God, sing in praise of his name,
    extol him who rides on the clouds;
    rejoice before him—his name is the Lord.

A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows,
    is God in his holy dwelling.

6 God sets the lonely in families,
    he leads out the prisoners with singing;
    but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land.

What is Home? The night before we left we tucked each child in bed in their “home”. We asked curious questions in regards to their 2019 One Word. Some know and some are still deciding. Our oldest son came to our bedroom after he had been tucked in. He said, “I don’t have my one word yet, however I do have a word. I would like to call the RV by the word ‘Home’ since that is where we are going to be. I want to say I’m going home not I’m going back to the RV”. We loved his recognition of this transition and appreciated his verbiage and insight to name this.

Last night when we got in the RV and tucked in their smiling faces for the very first time, the familiarity of home was with us. We are Home because Home is Us!

Client Visit:

We said hello to our first client along the way, South Fellowship Church. We enjoyed some delicious vanilla steamers and coffee in their coffee shop, Solid Ground Coffee House. We are in the desert headed to Santa Fe, New Mexico where we will stay for a few nights and try to get settled.

Thank you for all your prayers getting us this far.

Almost on the Road!

Almost on the Road!

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There is 1 day left before the Daley’s will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

Thank you to all who have served, prayed, played, said goodbye, eaten a meal with us, spent New Year’s Eve with us, led Xcelerate, steered us in the right direction, called us, text us, laughed with us, listened, watched the kids, helped give us the vitamins we need, dropped things off, and so much more.

We are almost on our 2019 RV Adventure! We are excited to see you.

Please pray for our safety and God’s wisdom. And, as so many have prayed….pray our eyes will see and our ears will hear what God has for us on this journey.

Ready or not...

Ready or not...

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There are 2 days left before the Daley’s will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

We are packing, preparing, moving, transitioning, praying, being, reading, fixing, checking. Can you hear the activity? The kids are anticipating, waiting, helping, wanting, playing, and wondering.

Tomorrow we finish packing up, saying goodbye to friends, and head to our first destination…Garden of the Gods. We are also excited to see our first church of the trip, South Fellowship in Littleton, Colorado. The kids are excited to enjoy a cup of hot chocolate on the church’s property as well; they have a coffee shop named Solid Grounds Coffee House.

Also, we are in prayer for our 7 new church plant clients. May God be with you especially during your first weeks as you also embark on a new journey!

Transitions...Today's Sermon

Transitions...Today's Sermon

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Today’s sermon was about transitioning well into a New Year.

The verses and quotes were perfect.

Please read and prayerfully consider how we will all transition well to 2019.

1: Exodus 17:1 talks about the Israelites journeying in stages.

2: Richard Rohr quote from this morning. “Spiritual transformation must become an actual process of letting go, living in the confusing dark space for a while, and allowing yourself to be spit up on a new and unexpected shore.”

3: Ashleigh French quote from our church. “Change is external while Transition is Internal.”

4: Reflection Questions:

  • Where is there change in your life? Is there deeper transition beneath that change?

  • What space in your life feel confusing or uncertain?

  • Are there paradigms you feel invited to let go of?

  • Are there transitions from years past that continue to invite you to transformation?

There are 5 days left before the Daley’s will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

Stepping Aside....Capstones..

Stepping Aside....Capstones..

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There are 6 days left before the Daley’s will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

Last night was another capstone moment for me (Jessica)….probably my biggest yet because I feel different today. We formally offered substantially more hours to key leaders at Xcelerate. As soon as I sent the document through Panda Docs, I went to sleep with a smile on my face. Their place at Xcelerate is well-deserved. We do not feel alone on this path of leadership. We have many contributors that act like owners, which is why we call them Stakeholders. I say capstone moment because I like the purpose of a capstone. The purpose of a capstone culminates academia and experience that encourages critical thinking, problem solving, and skill and character development. Without this capstone opportunity, there is a wall holding them back. Well, the offer letter was a symbol that the capstone opportunities have arrived. The challenge awaits and has been taken.

It’s no mistake that today I move from checking emails to packing the RV. I am prayerfully considering how I will transition from Operations at Xcelerate to Leadership at Xcelerate. I am not going away, but I will show up differently. Having a different space to transition is perfect because it’s hard to get out a routine in the same place. There will be plenty to discover!

I was ecstatic and a tad tearful. I felt a little bit like an empty-nester this morning. Xcelerate has grown up, left home, and is outside my abilities alone. We want it this way. The impact is far more great! Yet, I do feel different this morning.

Where is God asking you to step aside and let others lead? What do you do with the open space?

Thrive, Not Survive

Thrive, Not Survive

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There are 7 days left before the Daley’s will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

We hoped you enjoyed some time to “Thrive” this Christmas. We took a little break from the blog over the past few days as we decorated trees, wrapped presents, attended a Christmas Eve service, and settled into all of our Christmas traditions. This was one of the few years we stayed in Colorado and just celebrated with the 6 of us. It was really special. Other Christmas’ have been special as well. Making the drive to South Carolina and spending some great time with our extended families has been a source of great joy, yet this year was special. We started the day before (Christmas Eve) as we opened a family game. The kids were begging to open a gift and then felt a little trapped when we agreed with the caveat that we pick it and then play it. We had a few frowns at first, but the game was a great choice and soon everyone was laughing and having a great time. We watched a movie and then the kids had a sleepover in the living room.

This year was special because it felt slower. We eased into everything and got to savor it. We spent most of the next day just enjoying the gifts we gave each other as the day slowly drifted on. I realized in the day that I had just been kind of surviving. All the hustle to get ready for this trip has been needed, and I am ready for the trip to just happen. The last of Xcelerate’s Values is “Thrive, Not Survive.” We wanted to build a company that helped people Thrive. This value has affected many areas, but what comes to mind is our team. We have hired almost exclusively part-time people, many who are work-at-home mom’s. This is because we love to help a family thrive by allowing a mom to be with her kids and still add to the family’s finances. We ask ourselves and encourage our team to ask “Will moving into this role help you thrive”? Christmas this year was a great time to thrive.

What’s your Thrive?

Team Daley Values                                 

  • Be Kind

  • Be Truthful

  • Be Grateful

  • Make It Better

  • Work Hard, Play Hard

Team Xcelerate Values

  • Virtual, but together

  • Trustified (Yes, we made this one up)

  • Thrive, not Survive

  • Healthy Life Rhythms

  • Share the Wealth

  • Grow, Replicate, Empower, Repeat

Grow, Replicate, Empower, Repeat

Grow, Replicate, Empower, Repeat

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There are 15 days left before the Daley’s will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

Sometimes you live out a value before you can articulate it. This has been the case with,”Grow, Replicate, Empower, Repeat.” Three years ago we decided to take Jessica’s “side business,” and create a company that had the potential of scalable growth. We learned from reading many books on the subject, but one that was transformative was, “Making Money is Killing Your Business.” The author, Chuck Blakeman, often tells a story about one of the apprentices to the master Leonardo Da Vinci. Da Vinci, actually taught him to paint just like him stroke by stroke and had him paint a copy of the Mona Lisa. His point is everyone is replaceable and other people can be taught to run your business with processes. This became our mantra at Xcelerate. We created processes and templates for everything and it has paid off. This is partly what is allowing Jessica and I to focus on client care and business development as we travel around the country in the RV. We can only do this because we know we have a competent team continuing to on-board, implement, and take care of our already existing client base.

In order to Grow, Replicate, Empower, Repeat, several things must be on your mind at all times.

  1. Grow: Is your model scalable? What if you succeed in your plan? Do you have the other pieces of a business in place to handle the growth?

  2. Replicate: Can what you are doing be reproduced again and again? Are there systems in place to ensure that each client receives the same experience?

  3. Empower: Is it sustainable? Does the whole thing depend on one person or a few people, or are you empowering a team to improve the way your business serves the clients?

  4. Repeat: If everyone in the organization is constantly thinking how to go through the grow, replicate, empower steps, then new positions are constantly being created.

The Xcelerate Team is an empowered group of high contributors! As Jessica and I began to solidify the idea of an RV trip years ago, we wondered how we would and could leave well. As business owners we chose not to be threatened by this value. As we worked ourselves out of a job in certain areas of Xcelerate, other opportunities would arise and there would be no one else to fill those roles. Jessica moved from accounting work to training to recruiting to strategy over the course of the last few years. Each time she followed this process, and now there are leaders in each of those areas. Our team has watched this happen and has in turn been empowered to follow the steps. Is it scary? Yes, Do you make mistakes? Of course. Yet, we have to risk knowing the next gap will be there whether Xcelerate is ready or not.

As we write this we have over 20 Xcelerate Stakeholders. Most of the last group of stakeholders had little contact with Jessica or I prior to being hired. We have learned to really trust our team with recruiting.

God has provided everything we need so the RV trip can focus on client care. God has raised up leaders and very competent stakeholders to do their part during this journey. Our team journeys with us.

Pray with us today that this process will continue to grow a strong company.

Team Daley Values                                 

  • Be Kind

  • Be Truthful

  • Be Grateful

  • Make It Better

  • Work Hard, Play Hard

Team Xcelerate Values

  • Virtual, but together

  • Trustified (Yes, we made this one up)

  • Thrive, not Survive

  • Healthy Life Rhythms

  • Share the Wealth

  • Grow, Replicate, Empower, Repeat


Provision

Provision

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There are 17 days left before the Daley’s will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

The word provision means, “the action of providing or supplying something for use.” We have seen God’s provision all along the way as we have prepared for this trip. About a year ago, one of Xcelerate’s stakeholders told us they had a travel trailer that was only a few years old and they would be excited to share and let us use it. This is the trailer we will be using on the trip. Last spring, I (Greg) was on a trip with my son passing through Olympia, WA and stayed the night with a good friend. Over dinner I shared with him about the trip we were planning. He said, “Are you looking for a truck to pull it?” I said, “As a matter of fact, I am.” We walked outside and there was the truck we will be driving around the country. Those are just some of the larger supplies God has provided, but he has also provided a way to make it part of our business stability as well as emotional stability in our blended family home to even attempt a journey in such tight quarters and so much more.

Before the long journey West on the Oregon Trail, pioneers would go through a time of provisioning. This is the verb form of the word and meant getting all the supplies ready for the trip. As of today, in our time of provisioning God has supplied everything we need from a supplies point of view. Today, the trailer we will live in for the next 7 months and the truck that will pull it are in the shop getting the last preparations done for the trip. This morning, my thoughts drifted further back in history to another group of people on a long journey. This was more of a wilderness journey for the people of Israel as they escaped their captivity in Egypt but a journey nonetheless. In Deuteronomy 29:5 scripture says, “I have led you forty years in the wilderness. Your clothes have not worn out on you, and your sandals have not worn off your feet.” God provided by helping the things they owned not wear out. We are praying this as well. I am not sure if our clothes and shoes will make the trip (they were probably more hearty back then), but we do pray the trailer and truck stay together on the journey.

One last provision we are waiting on is for our house to rent while we are gone. We have a few people coming to look at it in the next few days. Please pray with us that God brings the right person to live in our house.

Share the Wealth

Share the Wealth

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There are 18 days left before the Daley’s will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

The Xcelerate team operates with six values that define our company culture and drives our decision making. We have already highlighted 3 in other blogs (click below if you missed them):

  1. Virtual, but Together

  2. Trustified

  3. Healthy Life Rhythms

Another value of ours is, “Share the Wealth.” When you hear the word wealth all kinds of things come to mind and our meaning is probably a mixture of a lot of those thoughts. It is not just about money even though we manage it every day. I (Jessica) remember early in Xcelerate, I was building a business alone. Xcelerate was started while I was a stay-at-home mom and was really created to generate some side income for a personal adoption. It began with two clients I personally managed, and I was looking for knowledge and wisdom from other accounting firms. I called two different firms and got two different answers…of which made a mark on me forever. As I was sitting in my Fort Collins home office, I called a firm in Washington state. We had just moved to Colorado from Washington so I started with, “we used to live in Seattle,” thinking it would build some rapport and give us something to talk about. When I began to ask questions about this firm, I was quickly shut-down with “it took me years to build my business, and I am not about to share with you how I grew it”. I was stunned. I don’t remember what was said after that, but that comment left a mark on me. I knew at that moment in time I never wanted to be threatened by other companies. I wondered if the next call would have the same ending, and dreaded dialing those ten digits. I called and asked for the CPA owner. There was a kind, warm voice that began to listen to my heart. I was greeted with comments such as “there is plenty of work for everyone,” and “I would love to share what I’ve learned.” The answers couldn’t have been more starkly different. One was threatened and one was inspiring. I knew from that point forward that I wanted a firm that would be inspiring.

Our team loves to share what we have learned – both the challenges and the wins. We love to create an atmosphere that sharing the wealth of knowledge is safe, welcome, and exhilarating for all. We never want someone to feel that they need to hide their knowledge so they become valuable. In fact, it is the opposite. When someone begins to see a gap and starts sharing their knowledge to another stakeholder, they are creating another valuable place for themselves somewhere else in the company.

The word wealth to us is about all types of wealth including money. We are striving to be a company that gives an aggressive 20% of our gross revenue to church planting, caring for pastors, stakeholder incentives, and profit sharing. We want to be a company that literally shares the wealth of the company to others-leaving another good mark on our communities both close and far. As we work with many churches from the ARC network, Association of Related Churches, we can’t wait for the day that we are able to fully fund a church plant’s matching grant to open their doors of $50,000. We also love sharing the wealth with our team because without them Xcelerate as it is today would not exist. We want to create ways for our team thriving both with internal incentives and external “fun-money” mechanisms. We aren’t just waiting for a future date to begin to share. We do this already as a faith step toward our vision.

Pray as we go in our RV, meet current clients, and gain new ones that Xcelerate’s growth will be propelled to be able to fully fund a church plant with ARC in 2019. Pray our team will continue to see and live the value of “Share the Wealth.” Pray for us as owners that we never forget how Share the Wealth has shaped us!

Team Daley Values                                 

  • Be Kind

  • Be Truthful

  • Be Grateful

  • Make It Better

  • Work Hard, Play Hard

Team Xcelerate Values

  • Virtual, but together

  • Trustified (Yes, we made this one up)

  • Thrive, not Survive

  • Healthy Life Rhythms

  • Share the Wealth

  • Grow, Replicate, Empower, Repeat


Make it Better

Make it Better

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There are 19 days left before the Daley’s will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

“Is this place better because we have been here?” This is a question we are asking our kids often. We are a larger family by today’s standards and so when we are all together we have kind of a large imprint. We can easily take up an entire aisle at the grocery store or block traffic at the airport with just two of us stopping to tie our shoes. Excitement is something we usually need to contain, because when 4 kids are all excited it can become a mob really quick. When we are invited over to someones house for dinner we are always saying don’t mob-rush the food. This is partly because 3 of our kids are middle school boys that never seem to have enough to eat and partly because there is just a sheer number.

Another sheer volume problem is around the house. If one person leaves a dirty sock on the floor its really no big deal, but if all four kids leave one out, then we have a mess. Add skateboards, bikes, toys, endless cups of water, granola bar wrappers and our clean house can be transformed to something that should be condemned in minutes. It was these two pain points that birthed Team Daley’s value of, “Make it Better.” We also borrowed this from Andy Stanley’s list of values from North Point Community Church, but we love it and it fits. Make it better is all about leaving a place better because you were there. If we all picked up something as we walked by it rather than leave it, then the house would go from condemned to clean in minutes as well. Many hands make very light work.

This trip around the country is going to put us in many different houses, campsites, churches, stores, museums, etc. We pray all these environments will be better because we have been there.

Team Daley Values                                 

  • Be Kind

  • Be Truthful

  • Be Grateful

  • Make It Better

  • Work Hard, Play Hard

Team Xcelerate Values

  • Virtual, but together

  • Trustified (Yes, we made this one up)

  • Thrive, not Survive

  • Healthy Life Rhythms

  • Share the Wealth

  • Grow, Replicate, Empower, Repeat

Tell the Truth & Trustified

Tell the Truth & Trustified

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There are 21 days left before the Daley’s will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

Telling the truth is so right and so hard to do sometimes. In our house blaming others and lack of self-awareness gave birth to this value. It is easy to see this value not being embodied in others while thinking we ourselves are completely self-aware and accepting of our faults. During this Advent season we remember that our Lord and Savior was born on this earth to accept ALL the blame, and he was VERY self-aware.

At Xcelerate Business Solutions we have a similar value. We call it Trustified. Yes, we made up the word because it incorporates the two sides of trust. We need to trust others for society to work and part of that trust depends on our trustworthiness. Amazing work can be done out of a place of trust. Our business coaching with Crankset Group, consistently modeled and encouraged us to “trust in adult behavior.” These four words helped us to:

1) Hire stakeholders who act and work like adults.

2)Trust them to do their work at the time and place they want to do it.

We have really seen our investment of trust grow as we have deposited trust in our team. We have stakeholders who have an attitude of ownership, stakeholdership, and high participation. Trustworthiness is a trait much needed in our world today. Trustworthiness is about competence and reliability, but it is also so much more. I recently heard a sermon at our church, and it was talking about leadership. Our pastor said, “Godly leadership is taking personal, moral, and collective responsibility.” I loved this because taking responsibility IS self-awareness…not only personally but collective for the sake of any group (in this case Xcelerate Business Solutions).

Please pray we are self-aware as the Daley family, honest with ourselves, and focus on internal growth instead of blaming others. Please pray for the Xcelerate team that we would embody Trustified – both trusting others and being trustworthy.

Team Daley Values                                 

  • Be Kind

  • Be Truthful

  • Be Grateful

  • Make It Better

  • Work Hard, Play Hard

Team Xcelerate Values

  • Virtual, but together

  • Trustified (Yes, we made this one up)

  • Thrive, not Survive

  • Healthy Life Rhythms

  • Share the Wealth

  • Grow, Replicate, Empower, Repeat


Be Grateful

Be Grateful

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There are 22 days left before the Daley’s will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

Numbers 6:24-26 says,

“The Lord bless you and keep you;
 the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you;
the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.”

This prayer has been prayed over us and our children many times by our family, our friends, and our church. Be Grateful is one of our values that seems the most aspirational. It seems so many days we need the reminder to be grateful. In our fast paced world, it is easy to get really bent out of shape because of traffic, forgetting that we are in a car and not walking as much of the world still does. We get so frustrated when things don’t happen in our timing, when really we have so much to be grateful for. I sometimes feel like the children of Israel complaining about the bread that just fell from heaven. This value was birthed out of that tension.

As we live into that value, we cannot help but be grateful for our family. When we told them years ago about our dream for this adventure, I am sure even though their faces said, “that is great,” inside they were probably worried. Regardless, they have been VERY supportive of our 7 month journey. They are excited about our endeavor, and us pulling up to their houses like cousin Eddie. They bought specific Christmas presents we needed and wanted for our trip such as fun science experiment kits, riding toys, blankets, and even a metal detector. They have bought journals for each of us and scratch off maps as we ride in to every state. They are giving us money towards Disney World and computers for the kid’s school. We are SO GRATEFUL for the Daley’s and Marlowe’s. Thank you!

Over the years our family has embraced our dreams and ideas. This started the first year of our marriage when we told them we were planning to pack up our Toyota Camry with all our possessions and leave South Carolina to help start a church in Seattle. It continued through many crazy dreams including 3 years ago when Greg transitioned from a stable city job to join Xcelerate Business Solutions. It was a leap of large faith that God blessed, and we have never looked back.

Thank you to our parents, grandparents, sisters, brother-in-laws, aunts, uncles, and cousins. We are excited to see you soon!

Team Daley Values                                 

  • Be Kind

  • Be Truthful

  • Be Grateful

  • Make It Better

  • Work Hard, Play Hard

Team Xcelerate Values

  • Virtual, but together

  • Trustified (Yes, we made this one up)

  • Thrive, not Survive

  • Healthy Life Rhythms

  • Share the Wealth

  • Grow, Replicate, Empower, Repeat

 

Virtual, but Together

Virtual, but Together

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There are 23 days left before the Daley’s will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

We are a completely virtual company. This means that even though some of our team members at Xcelerate actually live in our neighborhood, we still meet using our computers and video conferencing software. We do this because most of our team is scattered across the different time-zones of the US. In fact, we have stakeholders (employees) in 8 different states as far away as New York and North Carolina. We love it this way and our ability to work remotely is allowing us (Daley’s) to travel around the country and meet with each of our clients. This was not always the case.

When the company first began in 2011, all of our stakeholders lived within 10 minutes of each other in Fort Collins, CO. This made meeting up pretty easy. In fact, even just 3 years ago we were still meeting in our living room for staff meetings. This began to shift as one of our stakeholders moved to North Carolina, and we talked about going completely virtual. I remember our first Zoom calls where everyone was just a little square on my monitor instead of a person in my living room. I am a very relational person (Greg), and I will say this transition was not easy at first. I would tell a joke and because most were either on mute or because of a slight delay, I didn’t get immediate feedback. We pressed on with Zoom because being “Virtual, but Together” was really important to us. We did not want to lose the fact that we were a team of real people. We wanted collaboration and buy-in from our team.

The turning point was last September when we brought our whole team to Colorado to do our first annual XcelXcape weekend. We decided it was worth the money to be able to have a face- to-face weekend each year because we valued that togetherness. As a team we ate wonderful food, had great conversations and even crushed an escape room (see picture above). We had a great time and really built a lot of trust. I still remember our first team Zoom after the XcelXcape. Everyone was more at ease. Questions were easier to engage and people were joking around with each other. Face-to-face meetings really set the stage for relationship building. We learned that Zoom can continue something that is already there, but it really can’t develop deep connections.

One of the things we are most excited for is the face-to-face connections that we will be able to have with both our team and the churches we work with.

Please pray with us that these connections can happen as we travel.

Team Daley Values                                 

  • Be Kind

  • Be Truthful

  • Be Grateful

  • Make It Better

  • Work Hard, Play Hard

Team Xcelerate Values

  • Virtual, but together

  • Trustified (Yes, we made this one up)

  • Thrive, not Survive

  • Healthy Life Rhythms

  • Share the Wealth

  • Grow, Replicate, Empower, Repeat

Be Kind….Even to Yourself

Be Kind….Even to Yourself

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There are 24 days left before the Daley’s will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

I set my alarm for 5:30 AM this morning to get up and “get things done” before the kids got out of bed. This was the third day in a row I was waking up, going internally and externally from sun up to sun down, attending heartfelt meetings personally and with Xcelerate Business Solutions, and pushing to get as much done as I could. As I woke up this morning, I felt prompted by a conversation yesterday to remember to be kind to myself. I thought, “what is not going to get done by me sleeping a little more?”, “Can I be okay with myself not being ‘productive’?”, “Is it worth being kind to myself?”

I chose to grow in this area, catch a little more sleep, take time to eat breakfast with a cup of my favorite hot tea, and enjoy my Christmas tree. I find that if I am kind to myself ultimately I am kind to others. I have more to give. I have taken a few moments to enjoy something for myself. My bucket gets full before it get empty again.

Why is this so hard to do as a regular rhythm? Why do I truly believe I am more valuable the more productive I am?

There will be more space these next seven months than ever was and ever will be. There will be no soccer practices to drive to, youth group drop-offs, after school appointments to barely make, you name it and add it to the list. But, can I fill that space with kindness? How will I choose to transition my thinking to a different kind of productive? How will I rest?

Originally this Team Daley value was birthed out of the pain of bickering and arguing that seems to be ever present with 4 kids. The definition needs to be expanded to self-kindness. Being kind is hard to do when you are tired, stretched in so many areas, and bombarded. I think kindness comes out of a place of rest…rest in your soul. Focusing on the disappointment and the regret of what I didn’t do doesn’t bring honor to who I truly am. I am not saying we should never grow spiritually and never change. But, I am saying for those of us that are very hard on ourselves, let’s back up a moment, sit down, take a deep breathe and remember the wins.

Please pray we (and you) are kind to ourselves as we continue to wrap up 2018 so that kindness exudes to each other in our family….transforming our internal stress to internal contentment….transforming our external stress to external kindness.

Team Daley Values                                 

  • Be Kind

  • Be Truthful

  • Be Grateful

  • Make It Better

  • Work Hard, Play Hard

Team Xcelerate Values

  • Virtual, but together

  • Trustified (Yes, we made this one up)

  • Thrive, not Survive

  • Healthy Life Rhythms

  • Share the Wealth

  • Grow, Replicate, Empower, Repeat

Work hard, Play hard and other Rhythms

Work hard, Play hard and other Rhythms

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There are 25 days left before the Daley’s will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

A few days ago we wrote in “Vacation Pain” about our values. Our values always bring us back to what we are doing and more importantly how we do them. In some ways our personal and business values overlap, and in some ways they are different. Today we want to talk about both the Team Daley value of “Work Hard, Play Hard,” and the Xcelerate company value of “Healthy Life Rhythms.”

Today is the last day of school for our three boys. Along with their backpacks and last minute projects they are each taking their 2019 Withdrawal Form to school. This means that for them it’s actually the last day of school until August 2019! Yikes! Our value of Work hard, Play hard is one we gave words to a few years ago on that trip to Costa Rica. Having fun and playing in this amazing world God created for us is a big value for us, however, we can’t truly play hard until we have worked hard. Life feels undone and unfinished if all we do is play without work. All play is also not a sustainable way of life. Working hard creates a sense of pride and finality so that playing hard can happen with a clear mind and a full heart. These last few months the concept of ending or finishing well have become part of our regular vernacular. After much prayer and self-discipline or parent-imposed self-discipline, our boys are finishing school well today. We are proud of them; it did not come easy. There are still things learned the hard way, but they are better off for it. Our daughter has a few more weeks to keep working hard.

At Xcelerate Business Solutions early on we realized there is no such thing as work/life balance. Balance implies that work and life are at opposite sides and the ideal is to keep them both equal on the teeter-totter. As small business owners we could be juggling these two hats multiple times in the course of a day or even hour. That is also not how the world works. Our four seasons give us some insight into a more sustainable plan. There is a time of new growth and harvest and then a time of rest. This word rhythm seems to offer us a better way. Sometimes there is a busy time and we have to embrace it, however then we need to move into a season of celebration and rest. When it’s work time, we don’t feel guilty about working hard for what God has entrusted us to do in leading Xcelerate. And, when it’s life time, we embrace it and don’t send emails and texts all night long. The concept of healthy rhythms allows us to have good conversations about what to embrace when.

Pray as we go on our 6 month journey, we will Work Hard, Play Hard, and have Healthy Life Rhythms instead of discovering them the hard way.

Below is a complete list of both Team Daley values and Team Xcelerate values. More on those later.

Team Daley Values                                 

  • Be Kind

  • Be Truthful

  • Be Grateful

  • Make It Better

  • Work Hard, Play Hard

Team Xcelerate Values

  • Virtual, but together

  • Trustified (Yes, we made this one up)

  • Thrive, not Survive

  • Healthy Life Rhythms

  • Share the Wealth

  • Grow, Replicate, Empower, Repeat

The Break In

The Break In

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There are 26 days left before our family will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

Last week I (Greg) was able to celebrate the first Sunday of Advent with the church in Seattle that Jess and I helped start back in 2003. I also helped pastor for over 8 years. As I was sitting in the congregation I was reminded of a message I had preached about 9 years earlier on the first week of Advent in 2009. While I was preparing for the message, I was reading a quote,

“Our lives…pass through rhythms of cold indifference, and then God breaks into our lives and we become open and receptive. In the twists and turns of these alterations we are called to a new awareness of life, to new commitments, to a new conversion of the soul. Whenever this happens an Advent has occurred, for advent is the time when God breaks in on us with new surprises and touches us with a renewing and restoring power.”

Then my flip phone rang (since this was 10 years ago) and shattered the silence. I answered probably seeking an interruption from the study and task of writing the sermon, but I had no idea who would be on the other line.

“Hello, this is Mary from the Department of Social and Health services, we have a 6-week-old girl that needs a home?”

I am not sure anything can prepare you for a call like that, but we had signed up for it. We had done the hours of state mandated training, mountains of paperwork, physicals and fingerprints needed to become foster licensed.  Part of the surprise was we hadn’t received official word that our license had gone through.

After talking with my wife, Jessica for a while, the fear of the unknown suddenly gripped us and we walked over to our best friends house and prayed together. We prayed, we cried, we wept and talked. It was the first time in our life’s that we knew what God was asking of us, but instead of obedience, we wanted to run. The quote above says “God breaks in…” I think this is curious language as I don’t think of a break in as something positive. When humans break in there is a violation, and something is taken.  Perhaps though, when the creator of the universe and author of our story “breaks in” it is for our good. He deeply knows what we need and we desperately need him to break in because we don’t often invite him willingly.

As it turned out we picked up this precious little infant from the hospital about 2 days later. Our Advent season was interrupted with sleepless nights and cries from a helpless baby, much like the first Advent. That little angel spent 10 months with us and taught us so much. She opened our hardened hearts to hope. She opened our hearts to the reality that six years later we would actually be able to adopt our 3 children forever.

It was an amazing time to reflect on God’s “break in.” What if we actually prayed for God to bring Advent to us? What if we prayed for a “break in”?

Leaving Well is Staying Well

Leaving Well is Staying Well

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We are starting to see leaving well as a by product of staying well. I don’t mean staying well in regards to health; I actually mean “staying”, “being”, and “living”. You see I wasn’t planning on putting up a Christmas tree. I was planning on putting up stockings, wrapping presents, and putting a runner on the table. However, Greg and our daughter called me a “grinch”. I said I’m not decorating because I don’t even feel I have the time to pack what we need…let alone unpack Christmas decorations only to repack them…adding to the chaos and stuff around. Greg reminded me we are in Colorado for Christmas so let’s enjoy it and take advantage of the space and the rhythm of Christmas. I asked if we could compromise by just putting up my perfectly lit artificial tree. Since nothing else feels or is perfect, I do love my perfection of a tree. Experience over-ruled perfection and we are on our way to not only get a tree but cut one down from the forest. Greg and I see beauty in two different ways. Greg sees outdoor, rugged, and real as beauty. I see color, each space intentionally looked at, and packaged well as beauty. So, we will have our sparse, real, outdoor beauty and our full, fake, lit, indoor beauty…enjoying each other’s choices and staying well this Christmas season. On our way we even found a “Uneeda Pie” sale and grabbed a delicious mixed berry pie we would have missed had we stayed grinches.

Staying well has also entailed not only knowing we should go to coffees, lunches, and parties, but actually going and allowing ourselves to enjoy the opportunity.

How are you staying well this Christmas season?

The Tyrant of the Urgent

The Tyrant of the Urgent

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There are 29 days left before our family will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

We are going crazy with details. Is the truck ready? What storage bins do we need? Are we going to get a real tree this year for Christmas or go the easy way out? Will the kids pass their exams? Is the business ready? Year-end. Presents. Ending well. Holiday parties. Blogs. All the urgent matters are literally screaming for our attention and we can’t seem to fit it all in.

Please pray we stay focused on the important.

Vacation Pain

Vacation Pain

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There are 30 days left before our family will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

The words vacation and pain should never be in the same sentence. Two summers ago we saved up and went on our first trip out of the US. We did a combo of both vacation and mission/vision trip with our church. Our church was sending a team to Nicaragua to celebrate 10 years of working with a church plant turned church in a small remote and very poor village. We have always wanted to expose our 4 kids to the hard places of the world, and this seemed like the perfect opportunity to do it alongside people we knew. It was hundreds of dollars cheaper to fly into Costa Rica and take a 3 hour bus ride over the border. So we decided to vacation for 10 days in Costa Rica first, and then travel up to meet our team. We started at the beach in a little surf town of Playa Carmen because Team Daley loves the beach! We thought it would be a great start to our dream vacation. Another money saving idea was to stay way off the beaten path up a crazy 4-wheel drive road. After, twenty minutes of bumpy, windy and hairpin turns up the mountain we finally arrived at our rustic AirBnb rental. It was a few steps up from camping, but it had an amazing infinity edge pool overlooking the entire beach.

This is where we discovered that all the problems or frustrations of home follow you on vacation and pop up when you least expect them. We also discovered we had the time to engage those problems and frustrations. It was on this trip and through this engagement that we discovered something that has really helped our family. Out of the pain was birthed Team Daley’s Family Values. Values are something that is really important! Values are so important that when they are crossed, frustrations and problems arise. Naming these frustrations and transforming them into values has been a powerful part of our family culture causing us to thrive. It has given us a language to speak and an ideal to aim for. We are not perfect by any stretch, but these values have given us a place to have really great conversations. Then, of course it transferred to Xcelerate, and it helped us formulate our values in the professional environment too. More to come on this, but they were formed out of boundaries being crossed and the painful realization that our problems follow us even to the pristine beaches of Costa Rica.

What boundaries are important to you? A great place to start is what makes you angry or drives you nuts...chances are you are close to a value.

Friendships-Part 2

Friendships-Part 2

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There are 31 days left before our family will be packed and on the road in a 36-foot travel trailer with our 4 kids and hit the road on an epic business and personal adventure around the outer edge of the US.

Yesterday we wrote about friendship and specifically the ones we are leaving in Colorado. There is also another side of friendship. God has worked through relationships in our life. Over the course of our life we have made friends in the many places we have lived or visited. We have had to keep up with these friends through phone calls, social media and Christmas cards. As we look at traveling around the country some of these friends have already begun to reach out and say we would love to host you all for dinner. Some have even said, “we have a space for your 50-foot rig.” We are really looking forward to reconnecting with some of these long time friends and family around the country. These friends are leaning in too even knowing they will be short visits.

The last bit about friends is our excitement to make new friends along the way, meet new friends at new churches, and make new in-person friends with our clients from Vineyard, Association of Related Churches, and the Crossway Chapel Network.

 Pray for reconnections and new connections with old friends and new.